When it stops being a choice.
Almost everyone who struggles with this has tried to stop on their own. They have made promises, deleted apps, sworn off it for good, and found themselves back inside the pattern weeks or days later. That cycle is not a sign of weakness. It is the signature of a compulsive process that has outgrown ordinary self-control.
Sex and pornography addiction is marked by behavior that continues despite real consequences to your relationships, your work, your values, and your sense of self. The shame of it tends to drive it further underground, where it only grows. Naming it out loud, to someone trained to hear it without judgment, is often the moment the grip begins to loosen.
The goal is not just to stop a behavior. It is to no longer need it.